Online therapy for adults in Sacramento & across CA

Individual Relationship Therapy

Reconnect to others by first reconnecting with yourself.

 
 

Relationships are…complicated (and that’s putting it mildly).

 
 

Maybe you’ve been so heads-down, focused on your education or career, that when you look up, you realize that you’re missing someone to celebrate all your achievements with. Perhaps you were in a long-term relationship that you thought was “the one,” but it came to an end and you feel lost in the sea of dating apps and swiping left or right. You might currently be in a relationship, but it feels like you’re constantly at one another’s throats (or worse, barely speaking at all).

Or maybe you’re a mom or caregiver who doesn’t feel supported by your partner or family. You want to be more patient and slow to respond, but you find yourself lashing out in ways that don’t feel like you.

You question your ability to trust people, even those who say they care about you. You don’t want to appear needy, but you continue to feel insecure and unsure of both yourself and your relationship.

You want to experience those fulfilling, satisfying relationships you see others have, but you’re struggling to...

  • Set boundaries or communicate what you need or want

  • Put a stop to unhelpful patterns in your communication or relationship choices

  • Navigate the dating scene, especially after coming out of another long-term relationship

  • Release unfair or unrealistic expectations for yourself or your relationships 

The best investment you can make in your relationships is by first investing in yourself.

Let’s examine your role in what you’re noticing.

When your relationships don’t look or feel the way you want them to, it’s easy to resort to trying to control them: controlling the other person, the situation, and the outcome. In therapy, we’ll look at the things that are yours to control—your sense of self, your response, your needs & desires—and work on releasing the rest.

When you begin to understand and take ownership of your role in your relationships, you can start to relate to others from a place of security (not fear) and integrity (not compulsion).

You are worthy of healthy, fulfilling relationships.

What would it feel like to feel good—even proud—of yourself, regardless of your relationship status? What would it mean to break cycles or identify red flags before getting hurt? How would it feel to distance yourself from the toxic stories that society has told you about love or motherhood?

Therapy is an opportunity to get support in navigating the difficult terrain of relationships and build up the kind of confidence within yourself that assures you that you are worthy of finding whatever it is that you are looking for.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • I do not. I work exclusively with adults in a 1:1 capacity. Relationship therapy with me is a good choice if you want support in understanding your individual role in the patterns or challenges you’re noticing—a place that’s 100% dedicated to you. If you are currently seeing another couples therapist with your partner and would like to work individually with someone, I’d love to support you.

  • Yes. Individual therapy is an opportunity to identify and process your own experiences (including your childhood and past partnerships) and examine your own role in the dynamics you’re noticing. You’ll learn how to own your own response to things and receive support in better understanding how to connect with your partner.

  • Definitely not! Many of my clients are navigating the dating scene, newly single, or wanting help to break past patterns of toxic or unhealthy relationships so they can enjoy more fulfilling ones in the future. You are welcome here regardless of your relationship status.

  • I offer a free, no-obligation 15-minute consultation to help you decide if I’m the right therapist for you. Click this link to schedule yours, and we’ll find a time to chat about what’s brought you to therapy, discuss what you’re looking for in a therapist, and decide if we’re a good fit to work together.

Let’s chat.

Book a free, 15-minute consultation so you can decide if I’m the right therapist for you.